Well, you can always choose to have a funeral that you want.

Some people choose a direct cremation because they don’t want any fuss — no funeral, no ceremony. And that’s completely their choice. But often, what’s not considered is the impact this decision can have on the family and friends left behind.

When someone dies, the responsibility often falls to the next of kin — that might be you. And while you may feel torn between honouring their wishes and doing what feels right for you and your family, it’s important to know: as next of kin, you are allowed to reconsider the plan if it doesn’t feel right.

That said, if you’d rather not go against their wishes, there are ways to honour them while still giving everyone a chance to say goodbye.

A memorial service is a beautiful option. You can have a meaningful ceremony — with music, poems, readings, hymns, or prayers — just without the coffin present. It can take place in a church, crematorium, or somewhere more relaxed where you’re not rushed for time.

If you have their ashes, you could create a small tribute: a photo, a candle, some flowers — something that helps people feel close, reflect, and remember.

The truth is, a lot of people don’t fully understand what direct cremation means until they’re in the middle of it. That’s why it’s so important to talk things through properly.

Please, before choosing a direct cremation — whether it’s for yourself or a loved one — speak to your local funeral director. Avoid making arrangements online or through a sales call. Having a real conversation with someone who understands your options can make all the difference.

It could save your family a lot of confusion, and a lot of heartache later on.